Christopher and I are getting married.
And, as it turns out, planning for a wedding is complicated. There are a lot of moving pieces and you’ve gotta make sure you have things settled pretty well in advanced.
And I think we have, for the most part, been on top of our game. We’re six months away now and for MONTHS we’ve already had most things settled…
We have the venue.
We have the photographer (swoon!).
We (I) have the dress.
We have the caterer.
We have the videographer.
We have the DJ.
We have the bridal party.
We have paper straws with pink hearts on them.
Pretty much, if we had to (and could magically reserve all of those for a new date), we could get married tomorrow and be good to go.
The only thing we’d be missing?…
Literally ya’ll, I never knew how stressful putting together a guest list would be. LEGIT THE WORST THING ON EARTH!
I want everyone to come! I want everyone who loves us and supports us to be there! Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately in the grand scheme of things…for our budget, anyway) our venue has a strict limit on people. No wiggle room. And you guys, my family is huge. I’m talking more than half the guest list huge. And that’s just MY family – not Christopher’s family, not any of our friends… It’s insane.
And so…here we are. With a pile of ready-to-address Save-the-Dates and no guest list in sight.
|We even have these coozies because…why not?|
We’ve already decided on the no kids rule (besides Christopher’s daughter, J, of course, and her cousins so she won’t be there with no peers!), and we’ve already knocked out most of the unnecessary “plus ones” (our friends will understand…right?!) but every time I think about the list, I still turn into a mess.
I know we’ve gotta bite the bullet and do it, but honestly I want everyone to come! And I really don’t want anyone to be disappointed or hurt if they’re not invited – even though “the venue has a limit!” is the real, true, genuine reason! I’m just feeling bummed because I want to magically fit tons more people into a space where it just really isn’t possible.
I suppose it’s a good problem to have, right?
Any suggestions or words of wisdom for me? Anyone done this before and got through it unscathed? I’m dying for advice!