My husband Christopher and I are only a couple weeks away from our first wedding anniversary! I am freaking out — I’m so excited on one hand, but I’m also kinda bummed because I LOVE being a newlywed and basking in that silly, lovey, ridiculous glow. (Let’s be real, though, I’m a total sap and will probably bask in that sappy-ness forever!)
But being so close to our anniversary is making me go back and relive many of the incredible aspects of our wedding day.
One of my absolute favorite moments? Our First Look.
I am a traditionalist for the most part, so I was originally very anti-First Look, and wanted Chris to see me for the first time as I walked down the aisle. But as I thought more about the process, I realized something very important: I wanted this special moment to be something between us. As two introverts, I knew we were potentially going to find the more “showy” parts of our wedding difficult to begin with, and the more I thought about it, the more it made sense for us to be able to have this beautiful, precious, close moment NOT happen in front of 150 people.
No stress about exactly what our faces looked like to everyone watching and no worrying about being shy if tears came – truly no spectacle aspects at all. Plus, perhaps most importantly, we would get to talk! We would get to see each other for the first time and have these incredible emotions and be able to verbalize them!
Although I do find it super romantic for the couple to first see each other from down the aisle, I did always feel concerned about the fact that if that were me, I wouldn’t really be able to say anything to Chris! I might be able to throw in a quick “You look so handsome” or “I love you” or “Hi” or something, but we would be just standing there in front of everyone, so we’d have to make it quick 😉
And I’m just not that type – I want to be able to express how I’m feeling (Words of Affirmation is for sure my Love Language) and on what day would that feel more important than on our Wedding Day?
So after talking to my friend Katie, who did a First Look with her husband and highly recommended it, and asking my photographer Laura Marie about the pros (Amazing photos! Formal portraits can happen BEFORE the wedding so you actually get to go to your cocktail hour! Private moment for the couple!) and cons (Not traditional! Not having that “first seeing you down the aisle” moment!), we decided that we were gonna go for it!
And I do not regret it one bit.
I also asked Christopher why he was glad we did a First Look (without telling him what I’d written, of course!) and this was his response: “Because we got to get that nervousness over and have a little private moment together beforehand.” My sentiments exactly, husband. <3
I’d like to add now that yes, we absolutely got some killer photos from our First Look, and the video footage melts my heart every time, but those truly aren’t the real reasons I would recommend it – that precious, quiet time together before the hubbub and celebration of the day is something I will truly treasure forever.
Also, for the record, I definitely do not think that having a First Look made the moment of me walking down the aisle any less magical – as a matter of fact, as a person who gets pretty anxious at times, I think it actually may have made the moment even more magical, because I was able to enjoy it without being too stressed or self-conscious to focus.
So yes, of course I think every couple should do what is best for them, but if you’re getting married soon and you’re still on the fence about whether or not to do a First Look, I would seriously recommend considering it.
Plus, I mean, just look at these photos…