One of the most stressful things in the world is doubt.
It clouds your judgement. It overwhelms your heart. It imprisons your mind in a flurry of uncertainty.
And yet, it’s normal for us. It’s normal to look at the complexities of our lives and wonder if we made the right call.
I recently saw a Facebook post from a woman asking for confirmation that all that’s involved with this stepmom life was, indeed, worth it. Was correct. Was the right thing.
And it’s so tricky because, if we’re being honest, no one can decide that for you.
No one knows.
I do know that stepmotherhood involves a lot of sacrifice and a lot of processing and a lot of mourning.
I know that it involves change and adjustments and (#realtalk) pain.
And, you know, I can’t tell you whether or not that pain is worth it for you, I just can’t.
For me, it’s worth it.
It’s worth it 100%.
I’d like to think it’ll always be worth it.
Because I may not have the dream life I imagined as a child, but I do have my life.
I do have a husband who is endlessly supportive and hilarious and kind to a fault.
I do have a kiddo who makes me laugh more than most and challenges me to be a better person and doesn’t even know it, but helps me consider my decisions – great and small – with more thought and care than ever before.
I have a family.
Sure, I could spend all of my time questioning and doubting and wondering if my life is as it should be, but that would disregard the amazing things I know I do have.
Doubt is normal for stepmoms, but you know what else?
I think doubt is normal for people.
I’m much more interested in embracing the life I have and moving forward with love, gratitude, and confidence in the journey ahead.
And I hope you are, too.
Sending you so much love, my friend. I’m here with you for the adventure.